Home, Sweet Home
"My own feeling is that we've pushed women too far," says Dr. T. Berry
Brazelton, the 80 year old Harvard University doctor who is frequently called
"America's Pediatrician," in a recent interview in the Los Angles Times.
"We've split them in two, and we have not given them back anything to support
themselves on either end." He has witnessed what forcing the women into the workforce
and the breakdown of the family have done to the American children. "I just think our
country is in deep, deep trouble," he agonizes.
Opinion leaders of all persuasions agree. Ask America's First Lady, who considers
herself a champion of women's and children's causes. In her 1996 book, "It Takes a
Village," she offers this assessment: "
children's potential lost to
sprit-crushing poverty, children's health lost to unaffordable care, children's hearts
lost in divorce and custody fights, children's futures lost in an overburdened foster care
system, children's lives lost to abuse and violence, our society lost to itself as we fail
our children." This is a society in which by her account: "homicide and suicide
kill almost seven thousand children every year; one in four of all children are born to
unmarried mothers, many of whom are children themselves; and 135,000 children bring guns
to school each day. Children in every social stratum suffer from abuse, neglect, and
preventable emotional problems." She also approvingly quotes: "If you bungle
raising your children, I don't think whatever else you do matters very much." It is
obvious that America as a nation, has bungled this thoroughly.
Welcome to the dark side of "Women's Emancipation." Today women are free in
America. Free from the protection of a home and the support of a husband who would be
responsible to provide for them. They are on their own. In turn, the children have been
freed from the rigidities of the traditional home, where father and mother provide for
them, take care of them, and guide them. The children are also on their own. Just in case
they do not like it, the society has been experimenting with all kinds of poultry farms
---day care they call them---to take care of them.
Things have gone so wrong for so long that everyone has lost all hope that the society
can rectify it completely and retrace its steps. Hillary Clinton admits: "My personal
wish, that every child have an intact, dependable family, will likely remain a wish."
So, she is just trying to build a better poultry farm with the help of the whole village.
Dr. Brazelton knows that the children need the mother at home. "I think you are
giving a gift to the child when you stay home with him as long as you can." However,
he knows that it cannot be very long, as, to stay home, "being just a mother,"
is not good enough any more. He knows the psychological crisis faced by the stay-at-home
mothers, so he pleads with everyone to do as much as they can.
Now contrast this with the U.N. edict that the women in the rest of the world,
especially the Muslim world, must take up all kinds of jobs outside the home; that the
goal should be their total economic independence. In other words, women must be forced
outside the home so they are no longer available to take care of the children within the
home. They must be "liberated" from the home, so they can enjoy the same fruits
of "emancipation" as the women are "enjoying" in the U.S.
The destruction of the family in America, or the West in general, was not planned. It
just happened as a logical result of the materialistic, hedonistic, Godless civilizational
values that have gripped these societies. But the U.N. decree that the rest of the world
must follow the same disastrous path, is something else. It is as if a person lost an eye
to horseplay, and now wants everyone else to voluntarily have an eye removed!
It is unconscionable that we should be answering such chicanery with apologetics of the
kind that normally begin with, "Islam also allows women to," as in, "Islam
also allows women to work outside the home." Yes, it does in case of necessity, but
that is beside the point. The real issue is that Islam frees a wife from the burden to
provide for the family. It is solely the husband's responsibility. In return, wife's main
responsibility is to stay home and take care of the children. The primary field of women's
endeavor is the home, sweet home. And this has to be stated without hesitation or apology.
The Qur'an says: "And stay quietly in your homes."[Al-Ahzab, 33:33]. And the
Prophet, Sall-Allahu alayhi wa sallam, said: "The wife is responsible for taking care
of the home of her husband, and she will be accountable for those given in her
charge."[Bukhari, Muslim]. This is also the most rewarding job that anyone can think
of. The Prophet, Sall-Allahu alayhi wa sallam, assured the woman who stays home to take
care of the children, that she would be with him in paradise. According to another hadith,
during pregnancy and the entire period of nursing, the believing mother is like the
soldier on active duty. If she dies, she gets the reward reserved for a martyr. Yet
another hadith says to the women: "Take care of the home. That is your jihad."
All of these clearly establish the basic division of labor between men and women
according to Islam: men are responsible for the affairs outside the home and the women are
responsible for taking care of the home. This division is not a relic of some dark past.
It is the only basis on which a healthy society has ever been built and can be built
today. The nations that have tried to alter this natural arrangement long enough have
nothing but grief and trouble to show for their efforts. And they seem to be groping in
the dark, unable to undo the damage and get out of the quagmire. Is there any sane reason
that those who have the Light should follow them on the dark highway to disaster?